Ok... So this thing has been floating around my mind for some time now.. and since I am out with nothing to to do.. I finally have the time to pen this down...

Often I have been told by many including my near and dear ones.. That women need to be more understanding..we need to learn to be patient and forget about the wrongs that we have had to bear.. Be more forgiving and always be inspiring....Especially when it comes to our families and more so when it comes to our husbands....
When I think about our generation and the one before us and the one coming now...I can't help but realize the massive difference in the thought process... The previous generation would tell me to be an ideal wife...(someday, someone will have to explain the definition of an ideal wife to me ) ... Our generation has mixed views... Some of us believe in equality.. Which means both the partners need to be understanding and all that goes with making a relationship work.. And then there are some of us who think that the wife should be quiet, have no opinions with regards to anything.. Should listen to what the husband says and obey without so much as a peep...(I know such a person... And he has made his view very very clear) when he told us this the only thing I could ask him was which corner of his house would he like to place that piece of furniture in ?!?!?!? Coz according to me that poor woman would be nothing more than just a piece of furniture in his house...
Anyways.. Thats his viewpoint... I am just surprised that there are some in our generation whose mental frequency about marriage is the same as the generations before us... Actually worse...

I wish I live long enough to see the change in the thought process in the generation after us..
This is all for now... My coffee is over and the guy at the counter is giving me nasty looks... I guess he wants me to leave if I am done... Hmmm... Fair enough.. Gotta go...

Been really down lately.. I know I shouldn't be.. I mean I started Aura.. wanna make it big.. got plans for it.. the future and all.. but somehow I am not myself.. or may be this is the real me... Dunno...
When I was in Uni .. I had a specific idea about love.. and what it does to you.. I wont lie.. I have had my share of the so called falling in and out of love.. but when I look back.. I cant really say that any of those moments were love.. I guess I was in love with the idea of love..
when you look at reality.. its far from what you imagined.. I know mine is..

Dunno if I will ever get to experience the feeling when someone is madly in love with you.. Dunno if anyone would ever be crazy about me enough to call me the reason for his being..
Yeah well.. I always had a flair for the dramatics..

Massive lump in my throat.. wanna cry it out. but I cant.. coz I know it wont do me no good..

There is a difference between living and existing.. and I wanna live.. not just exist..

Anyways.. Gotta go now... picked a new topic to keep me busy.. Vampires Will research as much as I can...

Alone Again..

For a very long time I have tried to find my strengths... Tried many different jobs, various profiles..
However, somehow it always got monotonous for me.. I always felt the need to get out of whatever I was doing and do something more exciting..
I started working in 1999 and was gainfully employed until recently, when I decided the time had come for me to put my foot down and do something on my own..
So I got to thinking.. what do I like ?!?!? What motivates me.. answer I found was anything creative..
Acting, Dancing, Drawing, Teaching, Designing, Photography..
Now granted I have never really been formally educated in any of the above mentioned skills.. I still wanted to try them out..

So here I am beginning 2011 with a new perspective.. stepping into the unknown.. and most importantly.. starting my own business.. no more working for others.. now on .. I work for myself..

I will mention my line of business in my next blog hopefully in a month.. Once I get the business up and running..

Until then.. Wish me luck..

Ciao

I just could not start working today unless I finished writing this small article on the Ayodhaya verdict taken by the Allahabad High court yesterday. These are opinions of some of the Indian citizens and we all have a right to express ourselves in a way which would not harm another person or the country as a whole.
So here goes :

After the verdict was out late last evening, me and my husband jumped into the argument of whether or not it was acceptable that the court has decided to divide the 2.7 acres of that piece of land by 3.
I will get to the points put forth by us later, coz thats a VERY long list.. However; right now I want to write about the views I received from some friends and some colleagues.

Nearly 75 % of the folks I spoke with agreed that this was a fair decision taken by the Judiciary of India.
Their supporting reasons were:
1) This means the High court has accepted that Lord Ram was born there and finally given Hindu's the chance to worship their deity in his birth place.
2) It will mean no riots and business would continue as usual.
3) Its a stop gap arrangement, but no riots means its a good arrangement.

and so on and so forth...

For the 15% who did not agree to the decision their reasoning was varied again..
1) All the land should have gone to the Hindus
2) 1/3 of the land sounds more like charity than the rights of the community.
3) The law was not upheld.. The decision should have gone to EITHER sides.. not both. Now neither of the 2 sides is happy.

Then I have the 10% group which is not ready to comment on this matter at all.. either because they have never followed the case that closely and don't think it right to comment when you don't know all the facts; Or because we are the common man in this country, as long as the country is functioning we would not care who that particular piece of land goes to...

Coming to the points me and my husband made while debating the verdict last night.. I was for and he was against..

FOR:
1) This is a brand new chapter in our country where caste does not rule our actions or feelings alone.
2) Now the people can finally move on and construct a GRAND Temple and a GRAND Mosque to represent our faith in humanity.
3) The youth of India will not care of this goes on for another 10, 20 or 50 years, what we do care about is the growth of our economy and us as humans. All we care about is the rise of India as a superpower and SUPER SMART nation.
4) Leave the past behind, fighting over this land longer will not bring back the beautiful monument which was ruthlessly demolished in 1992, without realizing that it was a national treasure and a building that old should have been protected because of its Heritage value. However; that did not happen, we cant cry over spilled milk anymore... but what we can do is work to building a better and brighter future.
5) PRESERVE WHAT WE HAVE TODAY.. DON'T FIGHT OVER WHAT WE COULD NOT PRESERVE..
6) A singular decision in the favour of either of the religion would have been the surest an quickest way to start a riot in India. And we would have lost more good souls like we did when the Babri masjid was demolished.

AGAINST:
1) The law was put to shame today, the land in question belonged to the Muslim community since they had an existing building standing there which was brought down to ruins because of which this CASE came into existence.
2) The case was about who had right to the land, not solve the issue of this land.
3) None of the parties approached the Judiciary and asked for a peaceful outcome like the one taken today. They asked for fair justice about who the land belonged to.
4) When noted lawyers claimed that neither of the 2 parties provided the TITLE deed to the piece of land in question, hence the High court passed the verdict of diving it 3 way. The noted lawyers should remember that 3 - 4 centuries ago there were no title deeds, kingdoms were made by wars and conquests. If you post conquest erected a monument / building on that piece of land it belonged to you. Then how can the Muslim community be expected to produce a TITLE deed for this piece of land?
5) The Judiciary of India gave into the threat of riots and mass destruction; they succumbed and took this decision.
6) This was an insult to the many Muslims who died in 1992 in protest of the derogatory and shameful act of demolishing a place of worship.


I agree we both had valid points, I also agree that this could turn out to be just a stop gap arrangement.

And I also feel that when this case goes to the Supreme court it will be another 10 - 20 years before we get the final response from them and by that time we would have realized that we as a nation have put way too much of time and energy in this singular battle which is not productive. Instead there are many more battles to fight which are WORTH fighting for..

Tomorrow the youth of my great nation will stand up and say that we do not want a Mandir or a Masjid here.. we want to create a School for children to learn and grow up to be better people.

I strongly believe that "WE" the youth of today's India despite our religious differences will work together as one to build our nation and make this country proud.

For my great nation - INDIA - to peace for and amongst us all

If they say Why ? WHY ?

Tell 'em that its HUMAN NATURE

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Something that has been going on my head for some time now.. something I cant understand the logic of.. cant even explain it to myself...
And then suddenly I hear Michael Jackson singing Human Nature.. and it all makes perfect sense...